Attention Sufficient

Since I’ve been on ADHD meds, I’m capable of noticing nonverbal communication and feedback on social behaviour. I’ve found that if I sit down and study social behaviour, I can learn it. This is my journey, learning more about social customs through intentional study, more about ADHD through the contrast of where I was and where I am, and more about people in general.

Hearing No

The Japanese word for yes is hai. The Japanese word for no is — well you don’t really use the word for no in Japanese. The Japanese still say no. They’re just not crass enough to use the word no itself.  It’s like that in English, to a lesser extent. People will say no in […]

Tending Relationships

Having recently moved from the United States to Europe, I’m trying to figure out how to retain friendships across an ocean. I’m realising that you need to spend time on relationships, especially time when the other is not present.  I had a large group of friends, but I only saw them at parties and events. […]

Conversation

Conversation has always been difficult for me. I’ve studied up on how to have better conversations, but I missed the most essential point: What is the purpose of the conversation? Once you learn the purpose of a conversation, everything gets easier. My main goal in conversation had been to not appear socially awkward. So when […]

Executive Function

My ADHD medicine, atomoxetine, is different from other ADHD medications. Atomoxetine, marketed under the brand name Strattera, is not a stimulant, like other ADHD medicine. Rather, it increases executive functioning. It goes at the heart of the problem. “Executive function” is that part of the brain that watches the rest of the brain. It’s where you get […]

Unjudgemental

Despite people occasionally complimenting me for being nonjudgemental, I’m actually something worse. I call what I am “unjudgemental”.  What’s the difference? Nonjudgemental is when you choose to not treat people worse because of your judgements of them. Unjudgemental is when you don’t even make judgements of people, not even in your head. For example, let’s […]